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Think about these three words: Safety, Stability, and Nurture. What do they mean? Think about a relationship in your own life that was represented by these three words. What did others in the relationship do that made it feel safe, stable, and nurturing? What impact did that relationship have on your life? Whether you recognize it or not, relationships like these likely shaped your outlook on the world and your ability to succeed. Let’s take a look at a few relationships that could be considered safe, stable, and nurturing.

Like all families, Chandra’s, Charlotte’s, and Ravi’s families have experienced some stress. Whether faced with single parenting, relocation, separation, financial or job-related stress, strong families are resilient and bounce back. No matter what, they make sure their children have safe, stable, and nurturing relationships. Chandra’s mom has extended family support, close friends, and a strong bond with her infant. She is beginning to build a strong relationship with the caregiver at the child development center. Charlotte’s parents understand her emotional needs. They help her maintain connections with old friends and build new friendships. Ravi’s family communicates with one another, celebrates one another, and spends time connecting and reconnecting.

疾病控制和预防的中心考虑了安全，稳定，培养的关系，就像这些“童年的必需品”之一。让我们探讨疾病控制中心如何定义这三个词。

• Safety：安全是“儿童摆脱恐惧的程度，从身体或心理伤害中获得。”这意味着成年人保护孩子免受伤害。成年人规范了自己的情绪并监测了孩子的发展。
• Stability：Stability is “the degree of predictability and consistency in a child’s environment.” This means the child comes to learn that the world is a manageable place. Consistent family routines are one way stability is provided for children.
• 培育：培育is “the extent to which a parent or caregiver is available and able to sensitively respond to and meet the needs of their child.”

Safety, stability, and nurturing relationships are important throughout our lives. Unfortunately, trauma (like abuse or neglect) can damage or destroy a child’s sense of safety, stability, and nurture. This impacts development. Think about the school-age children in your care. Do all of them have relationships that are safe, stable, and nurturing? Based on what you have learned already in this course, it is clear that for some children the answer is, “no.” We do not have to accept that for an answer, though. It is our job to help strengthen families and help each and every person look back on their childhood and answer, “yes.”

你可以被意识到压力房颤fecting your families. Being involved in a suspected case of child abuse or neglect can bring a great deal of stress to a family. The rest of this lesson will focus on (a) the behaviors or issues you might see after a family has been involved in a report and (b) how to help families that have experienced this kind of trauma. Remember: any time you are uncomfortable or don’t know what to do, you can go to your T&Cs or supervisor for help. You do not need to face anything alone.

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许多参与儿童虐待或疏忽指控的家庭都经历了某种创伤。这可能意味着他们经历了虐待或忽视了孩子。在家中也可能有家庭暴力。他们可能会遇到家庭或社区暴力。

创伤可以影响家庭如何与您互动。寻找这些特征（预防儿童虐待，2013）：

经历过创伤的家庭可能会发现与您建立信任关系很难。他们可能并不容易信任任何人。

Families might perceive aggression or danger where it does not exist. They may struggle with keeping themselves or their children safe. You might find yourself questioning their decision-making.

• 这y may abuse drugs or alcohol.
• 这y may have a hard time controlling their emotions.
• 这y may seem numb or “shut down.”

Watch this video to learn more about supporting families impacted by trauma.

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以下策略列表来自防止儿童虐待和促进福祉：行动2013资源指南的网络。考虑您可以使用这些策略来支持经历创伤的家庭的方式：

• 与你交谈米尔T＆CS或任何时候支持的监督员，您对一个家庭有疑虑。
• 了解父母的反应（包括愤怒，怨恨或避免）可能是对创伤的反应。不要个人接受他们。
• 请记住，经历过创伤的父​​母并不“坏”。责备或判断它们可能会使情况变得更糟。
• Recognize that all parents want their children to be safe and healthy. Compliment parents’ good decisions and healthy choices when you see them.
• 保持冷静，使您的声音保持中性和不威胁。模型直接和诚实的沟通。
• Be consistent. When you make a commitment, follow through.
• 请注意，您可以体验次要创伤压力，当您看到或听到其他人的创伤时可能会发生。照顾好自己，花点时间来解决自己的反应，当你觉得你被压倒时。

You should become aware of the resources available to families in your community米尔或安装：

• 存在军事家庭宣传计划，受害者宣传和过渡赔偿，以通过预防，干预，待遇和受害者援助来解决家庭滥用。访问http://www.milelateonesource.mil/abuse.for more information.
• 这Family Readiness System (FRS) is the network of programs, services, people, and agencies, and the collaboration among them, that promotes the readiness and quality of life of service members and their families. The services available through the Family Readiness System can help families develop new skills and tackle life’s challenges in every stage of military life. Services vary by installation but may include: mobility and deployment assistance, relocation assistance, personal financial management, spouse education and career services, family life education, emergency family assistance, domestic abuse prevention and response services, child abuse prevention and response services, new parent support, exceptional family member support, non-medical individual and family counseling, transition assistance, morale, welfare, and recreation, and Information and referral.
• 所有服务会员及其家庭都可以提供非医疗咨询。非医疗咨询计划为现役成员，国民卫队和储备服务成员及其家属提供机密，短期咨询。辅导员在心理健康领域拥有硕士或博士学位，并在州，地区或哥伦比亚地区进行许可或认证，以独立练习。非医疗咨询旨在解决在家庭和工作，压力管理，调整问题的改善之类的问题（例如，从部署返回），婚姻问题，育儿和悲伤和丧失问题等问题。这些个人课程可以面对面，通过电话和在线提供。非医学咨询尚未旨在解决儿童虐待或疏忽等长期问题，家庭暴力，自杀性思想和心理健康问题，但它可以选择面临短期压力源的家庭。有关更多信息，请访问https://www.militaryonesource.mil/confidential-help/non-medical-counseling。

就像这个课程与儿童的例子一样，安全，稳定和培养的关系，让我们结束这一课程，这课程可以减轻经历了创伤的家庭中的压力。考虑凯尔和他的母亲：

凯尔在家里遭受了忽视，他的母亲目前正在报告和调查后接受社区的帮助。你注意到凯尔比平常更多地表现出来。在当天结束时，当凯尔的妈妈来捡起他时，你会看到你的同事跑到她身边并说，“你需要签署这个事件报告。凯尔今天打了4个其他孩子。如果这保持上面，我们可能需要为他推荐另一个展位。“

凯尔的母亲泪流满面，说：“我不知道我要做什么。我从工作试图成为一个更好的妈妈的工作中脱掉了这么多时间。如果我失去了这个课后的空间，我恐怕我会被解雇。我要做什么？“她拉出了一个哭泣的凯尔出门。

第二天当凯尔的妈妈进来时，你匆匆忙忙地说，“好消息！我们有一些问题，但凯尔今天做得更好。我们正在取得进步！“凯尔和他母亲的脸上笑着笑。你觉得很好知道只是把东西放在角度上有助于减轻家庭的压力。